The last compliment I gave soemone was myself earlier today or how I’m learning the wisdom to know what to overlook and what to give my attnetion to without being too aloof.

Self obsessed, moi?

Haven’t done that for ages. Thanks for reminding.

Was the overlook thing spell check?

Upon waking this morning I looked in the mirror and said ‘yeah Gary you are the best’.

Apart from that I never pay people compliments- it makes them sloppy.

eg- when talking to a girl never say ‘I like your hair’ ask her ‘have you put weight on’. It makes them all selfconscious I’ve managed to get one girl down to 5 stone. She looks really funny and never goes out anywhere.

I compliment frequently but only out of sincerity.

Most recently (not including my children) would be to a young mum I know who is embarking on an adult education course. I informed her she was an intelligent girl and would do well. She seemed surprised and pleased by my observation. She lacks confidence and needed that boost.

Compliments are necessary to reassure us that what we think we know about ourselves is infact correct. Our self observation needs reinforcement.

Some supremely confident individuals do not need this reinforcement but then their self view may be completely off! You only need to look at some of the ‘X’ factor wanabee’s for evidence of that!

Take care and good day.

As long as the compliment is deserved and meant.
I do see some poeple passing compliments only to mutter behind the other persons back, generally I’ll ask why they do this and tell them that as a rule if I hear someone gossip or backbite about someone else I assume they do it about me and treat them accordingly.

Passing compliments that aren’t deserved should be avoided as it can be detrimental in the long term. I’m assuming X factor is one of those talent shows where complete idiots try and sing or dance to become famous - class example of what misdirected compliments can do.
Also the practise of passing unecesasary and undeserved compliments is only one step away from the ridiculous situation we have in certain places ni the UK where nobody is allowed to lose at sports in school, none coimpetetive sports, etc.

Credit where its due should be the order of the day.

GIC we agree again!

Recieving false compliments almost have a negative affect for me. If someone tells me something I am pretty sure they don’t mean, I think they are covering something up or going to ask me a favour.

Complimenting someone on a real acheivement adds so much weight to it than just ‘you are faaabulous daahling’.