unfortunatly I am led more by my heart than my head….

however you can stop loving a person… truly you can…. when common sense kicks you up the butt, and you see them for who they really are this can be a rather sobbing thing…..
taking of those rose coloured glasses can be hard but very enlightening…..

Love is in every emotion… you can not hate if you do not love, you cant be angry with out it, sad, happy, mad, surprised… it doesnt matter what other emotion it is there is a component of love in there…
It is the strongest of all emotions and can lead to the greatest good and the greatest evil wars have been fought for it, lives taken over it… and the most incredible relationships made from it…..
but you can stop it, it can be hard… but it can end…..

aussiecynic’s last blog post..from the funny to the Weird!

Scuse me Lib, not interested in your lame post, but usin your space to speak to me mates.

Listen Flowers!

Bin away I av! Me birthday see! Still youz lot knows that ey? Like I woulds likes to thanks youz all for them right nice comments wot you wrote on TB’s post I would. Specially me Aunty Bridget an TB fer startin it all right.

All except you, Smalld!<kfromellesemereport.

Wot a time! Been in Vegas me an my David av, see I was doin some gigs like for a bit of extra cash an usin me birfday as an excuse! That Billnillary Clintons came they did. He’s lovely he is, an she’s a bloke in drag see.

Well that Monica Lewinsky came an all, an she was like showin us ow to smoke a cigar an that (like Smalld!<kfromellesmereport don’t know already…… he does you know, tried it on wiv David in Abu Dhabi he did, “NO!! SMALLD!<KFROMELLESMEREPORT!!! NO!!!!” my David says to im).

Still, what youz av to do is get one of them big cigars, an pucker up your lips, like wot Smalld!<kfrometc does, an just suck see! Lovely! Dip em in things an all you can.

Anyways right, there I was playin me Joanna when this bloke in the audience shouts up, “Wotcher Elton! Appy Birfday Mate!,”

“Fanks Darlin,” I sings back to the tune of Benny & The Jets. “Listen Elt, I’m, avin a bit of trouble wiv me central eatin system see. I’ve got a Lockheed 530 Premium Gas Injected System, an the pilot light keeps goin out. Wotchoo think I shoulds do bout it mate?”

Well that’s a right dilemma that is, see north of Vegas, where he cames from, is like Right Up North an all, an it gets proper cold there this time of year it does right.

Didn’t miss a beat I didn’t, every word was right in tune wiv the song an no-one else noticed I changed the words I don’t thinks;

Get a new Wipton Tap,
An fix it in the Spillade Gap,
Cement it in wiv EvoStik,
Make sure your pilot lamp is lit
An if you see Smalld!<kfromellesmereport slap im ard!
La la la la an the Jets an all………

“Cheers mate! If I see im, he’s dead meat he is.” He shouts back

See I likes that, youz av to look after your fans you do, an they do their bit for me right.

Love ya!

Elt XXXXXXXXXXXXX

In love the heart always rules the head. In such that we can choose whether or not to act on our feelings, but that doesn’t mean we can stop ourselves from feeling them.

I think that it’s also very possible to fall out of love. People do every day. There may be a lingering sense of companionship or familiarity, but when you fall out of love, the strong connection just isn’t there anymore.

Funkygirl012003’s last blog post..Informercials and Advertising yourself

A love that is lost is a love that is not meant for you… then go and find someone else or let that someone find you…

It’s better to love than never at all…

When loving someone and it’s the right kind of love the heart and the head will compliment each other they will agree and loving will not be so hard.

earthlingorgeous’s last blog post..Chasing Your Happily Ever After

EJ, you are back Bridget has missed you.

Lib, I think the power to forget varies from one person to the next.

I know people who never move on, they go on pining for love lost in their heart for a long time.

Other people treat love as a game, they can play any version of it with any partner. Forgetting comes easy.

Then there are those like Bridget, who takes time (an awful lot sometimes!) to get over lost love, but once they are over, there is no going back. For us, stage one is where we learn to live without, while we still love (not by choice, just can’t help it at this stage ha!). Stage two is starting to be free of the memories and the pain. Stage 3 is when we’re done ‘mourning’, by that time, we don’t remember much about the lost one. We don’t live in the past once we’re over it. It’s over.

I think that we all have a soul mate. Does not mean everyone ends up marrying theirs. Does not even mean that we’ll recognise them when we meet them. Sometimes it takes time. Sometimes we never see them for who they are and we part ways. Also, we meet lots of wrong and almost-but-not-quite right people along the way. They serve a purpose - they give us temporary joys and happiness, and our vecu with them helps us get more attuned to who could be the right person for us.

One thing for sure, if it’s not meant to be, it won’t be. If it’s meant to be, one way or the other, one day or another, it will be..

My husband is my life..

nursarahlam’s last blog post..http://www.youthmalaysia.com/

Thanks for your insights guys, however, no one has really answered my question.

I know that you can get over someone if they were a pain in the arse or they were wrong for you or you fall out of love with them.

But do you ever stop loving someone just because they stopped loving you?

What happens if you see someone after a few years and you were in love with them and the feelings come back. Did they ever go away? Or does the heart/brain have a coping mechanism and it just buries the feelings away.

I’m not sure about soul mates, I’m not even sure about monogamy but I reckon that’s a seperate post.

Wow - this has got me thinking….

I’m not sure that everyone has the same definition of love, but it’s a word that sums up many things. I think that there are different types of feelings that we associate with love, but sometimes get them mixed up - which is where confusion can come in.

Types of love from Wikipedia:

Eros (love) — a passionate physical love based on physical appearance
Ludus — love is played as a game; love is playful
Storge — an affectionate love that slowly develops, based on similarity
Pragma — pragmatic love
Mania — highly emotional love; unstable; the stereotype of romantic love
Agape — selfless altruistic love; spiritual

People receive love in many ways. There is a book - I haven’t read it, but have heard about some of the info in it. It is called something like “The five love languages”. We ‘feel loved’ through:
1) things people say
2) people spending time with us
3) receiving thoughtful gifts
4) people helping us
5) physical (not sexual) contact

To me, loving someone is something we ‘do’ to people in the ways described above that means they end up feeling loved.

So - in terms of actively loving someone (as per the languages), it is possible to stop (and is probably a contributing factor to marriage breakdown).
In terms of emotions you feel for someone, I don’t think it’s possible to turn emotions off. It is possible to understand why you are having that emotion, and possible to change your perceptions or beliefs that trigger the emotion.

Re capacity to forget - I’d say that where emotions are involved then when you are loving someone, you are giving a bit of yourself on an emotional level to that person. I’m not sure you’d forget that. What it is possible to do though is to deal with the consequenses of loving that person (re actions and emotions) and no longer being in a position to love (action) that person. So, if emotional pain is involved, it’s about dealing with the emotional pain.

Heart or brain? - Well, it’s all brain - the heart bit is the emotional bit of your brain. So, I think it comes down to learning to understand your emotions and understand the type of love involved.

Friends of ours, who are now married, avoided saying ‘I love you’ to each other, as they felt that you wouldn’t say that and not be prepared to do something about it in terms of their relationship. For them, it was marriage. So when he proposed, it was ‘I love you, will you marry me?’

Only my take - I’m not an expert - but I do love, and am loved.

I love my family. I also love ice cream (peanut butter chunks with chocolate, mmmm)
I could learn to live without the ice cream, not the family.

Love comes in many flavors, sort of like ice cream! It’s subjective.
I still love my high school sweetheart, but I don’t arrange my life around those feelings.

And don’t our perceptions change with maturity? Aren’t we supposed to begin to balance our heart & mind in the process of our growth?
Wow — what a thought provoking few words Lib. And timely for yours truly here because I’m struggling with that balancing act right now.
I don’t want to return to California — my heart tells me to stay put.
My mind says, “WTF mate? What ARE you thinking? Go, smell the funky garden that you planted in So.Cal., fiss it up, finalize your bs dilemma and get the hell out.”
Yeah.

Rufus’s last blog post..Blowing His Trust Fund

I think for a normal person, it is heart which controls the brain. Maybe thats the reason why people too much influenced by their brain are called “cold hearted”.

I believe we humans have this great capacity of going on with our lives even when we are “broken hearted”. If that was not the case, I am sure most of us have stopped living after failing at the first hurdle in our lives. As they say, people come & go but the life never stops. The show must go on
Dubai Guy’s last blog post..Blog Idol

Here’s a great definition of TRUE LOVE:-

“To want for the other person what they want for themselves, even if you prefer they wanted something else.”

arvind’s last blog post..7 Tips to Stop Losing an Hour of your time EVERY Day