Hi Aussie –
I don’t know what a chook is.
So I just looked it up on “Google”. Evidently it’s slang for chicken in Australia. Since we called girls “chicks” back here in the 70’s — I’m gonna guess that you’re calling Bridget your “chook”, meaning your “BFF” or Best Friend Forever. Your friend, if BFF is stretching it.

I don’t like her tone. In my opinion it’s rather sniffy and patronizing and I get plenty of that already from people who pay me to pretend as though I deserve it. I don’t have to volunteer for spankings.

Or presumptions. One only has to look at the context in the comments and it becomes brilliantly clear as to what and why I said what I said.

We don’t have to always agree on subjects, but to presume that someone who was in the serious competition for becoming a “founder” would be insensetive ON PURPOSE is a bona fide attack on that persons character.
Me.

It was, uh … UNfounded.

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I am simply saying that you were a bit harsh in your response to my friend…
We dont all agree on everything said here as in real life however we do agree that personal attacks or not called for…

I do however like your posting and general comments and thorns are welcome….
GOd nows I cause enough of them myself…
but you do have the wrong impression and I am merely trying to retify that…..
Personalities here are hugely varied, from the everyday ordinary to the totally crazy, I fit more in the latter…. Bridget fits towards the front however can move through them easily…. I wish only to enlighten you on this perception as you where doing with us…

bridget is a well respected member of the founders club and a mediator to all of us…. any new founders will learn how important each of our unique personalities are to the community and each of us in one or another helps not only with this blog but with everyday life…
We do give a hand up when needed, will put people in their place and stick up for each other when someone goes to far….. regardless of if they are a founder or not…. this way the community is looking after each other as a community should…..

And yes chook is a nickname we use in Oz it is a term of friendship, which is only used with good friends I am fortunate to count chook amongst mine….
One day perhaps I will also count you amongst them too… but it a term I only use with great thought….

Btw I got an email of the interview with this Tom Guy…. he married to a woman….. I tell you it would been an interesting marriage considering he didnt the change……

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Well… As Tay would have said, Holy Cow!

I was certainly not expecting such a reaction to my comment, so it must clearly mean that I have come across as patronizing when I intended to share insights about a founder’s role. Well then, allow me to apologise for the perceived condescending tone Rufus, as well as for wrongly interpreting your response to Dubai Guy as being one of ridicule. Mike has a point, I should have asked for clarification first.

It seems as well that I may have been poorly inspired to think that a founder should share about Flowers’ implicit values with an aspiring one, so I’ll take that part of my comment back as well.

Happy Posting Rufus.

Chook, thanks for stepping in to be the mediator. Good point you make about the self-regulation aspect of the community. Things may have escalated out of proportion here so hopefully this note clarifies all misunderstandings. I must admit though that I wonder now what kind of reaction we’ll get if ever some day feedback gets delivered by the likes of Angry. Anyways, not my place to comment probably. How did things go with Mr Moronic btw?

sending your email now you wont beleive it… i am still reeling

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Bridget Jones — I’d offer up that I was severely sleep deprived and on the verge of playing “Ghetto Monopoly” with the famdamily (you have understand that we arm ourselves with flying verbal abuse) — but I did over react which isn’t common for me.
I’ve been called several things in this Garden Ho’s life, and I take it all with a grain of salt. Several. Grains. Of. Salt. Being insensetive was a new one. My compassion and empathy run deep — it felt like a direct slap.

I stand corrected.
And thanks to your “chook” (GAWD! I love that!) Aussie Cynic for redirecting me back to the post. I missed this.

I don’t know you, you don’t know me, but I’ll hang out whether or not I’m inducted to the garden — and all that will change. Group Hug? Love is so contagious.

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No no Dubai Guy, I’m not angry! Trust me, this isn’t Rufus angry.
This is Rufus bewildered by reactions that came from left field.

If anyone should apologize dear man, it’s ME! It appears that someone thought I was laughing at you and not behaving appropriately. Of course, this was their assumption of my “VBL” = virtual body language — and evidently you thought so too because you appreciated the “support”.

This does pose a dilemma for me because:
A) I didn’t think you WERE serious about not knowing how people could inseminate themselves in a home environment — I truly thought you were being glib, and
B) I have got to rethink the community posting here because I just won’t fit in if this is going to be the norm rather than the exception, and that just makes me sad. I Love This Place, it’s so quirky and weird! I deplore being underestimated or worse, told that I’ve been insensetive.

I mean Jeez, it’s me, yanno? Rufus?

Oh, wait. I get it.
We’re all just getting to know each other, eh? YEAH! That’s the ticket! You don’t know me, I don’t know you, so it’s best not to jump to conclusions.

I concluded you were being silly when you were being sincere, you both determined I was being insensetive when that was the farthest thing from my mind, and I presumed she was being a condescending fanny when she was really being friendly and helpful?

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Rufus -

“I don’t like her tone. In my opinion it’s rather sniffy and patronizing.”

I can see how you could read it that way, but get to know Bridget first before you jump to that conclusion.

Your answer to Dubai Guy just misjudged his question and Bridget was pointing this out. However she misjudged your motivation as well .. “A rather inappropriate tone from an aspiring Founder .”

Easy to do here in comments.

Let’s all give each other some space and ask for clarification before we pass judgments on each other.

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This is great ain’t it? Told you this post had the potential to go off at tangents. Fantablious.

Fantablious - a new owrd at flowers FF,

Received with thanks.

Wiily Wonka.

Rufus…It’s true here everyone has their own different personalities here. I know when I first came here Bridget was hard on me too…but that’s Bridget. And now Bridget (or Renee…lol Bridg!!) is one of my closest friends. I don’t find what she said out of place at all. I think it’s great that she commented because it seems like we can see your true colors off the bat. Sorry about being so harsh but HOLY COW!!!

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Wow!

It’s interesting reading this bit of the post - misunderstandings, others taking offence on behalf of others. And when I read the start of this thread yesterday, where Rufus responded to Dubai Guy. I was wondering what the fuss was about.

It reminded my of a situation in Mike’s family, where his mum asked his brother what a w***er was. He couldn’t bring himself to explain so passed her a dictionary.

Welcome to the Garden Rufus - I guess you could call this an initiation ceremony.

Nice one Emma F… your contribution here is priceless!
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