Mighty Morgan here! With my latest post……
Some people live by the expression….”Let go and let God.”
For me though, I have found that “Let go….or be dragged” is more off a statement that I can live by!
There have been many people, places and things I have willingly held onto, which served only to push me to the edge of my own insanity. The most damaging of them I found out in the end was my own distorted ideas that fueled my desire to hold onto “things”.
I have lost quite a bit of time and energy running after certain ideas, situations and circumstances that held the promise of sanity and well being. Believing in some way shape or form that something outside of myself would offer me the sense of emotional balance, happiness and self-acceptance I so desperately craved.
They never did.
I have stayed in bad relationships, miserable jobs, participated in a very unhealthy lifestyle all because I refused to take any responsibility for my own well-being. Because I refused to let go of ideas that did not serve to produce the result I was led to believe they would.
So any of you “stuck”? Doing the same thing and not getting the results you should? Anyone getting dragged by not letting go?
Hi there Morgan
Oh Yes I am with you Girl If I was to tell you all things I stuck with more out of Pride and the hope it would get better I would be the size of an Encycloepeadia…. not joking…
Am presently in the process of trying to get into a better situation to make life easier and maybe get and do a few of the things we would like….
Bad Relationship yep 12 years,
Bad Job constantly
Bad choice with most things yep
All I can say is the only things that you have control in this life is YOU!
Nothing else can be changed if it doesn’t want to be but you do have the power to change what is in your control and the only thing is you…
If you don’t like what you are doing do something else, bad relationship leave.
All the things you have done up to today every little or big no matter what have gone gathered together to make you who you are and that is someone special ….
The difference between Ordinary and Extraordinary is that little bit EXTRA!
Take Care
AC
Aussie,
12 years? That’s a long time to put up with nonsense girl :(( WHY do/ did you put yourself through this??
Just crazy I think……….
Believe it not I used to be an Optimist….LOL
Thanks Aussie…it’s always good to know that the paths of insanity I have walked are ones that have been walked by many others. I agree that if I had not experienced what I have thus far I would not have the broader perspective i now have..
Hi Mighty, it’d been a while and great to see you back!
Your blog has inspired me to admin that I’m stuck in a relationship that I should have got out of way back, so I can relate to AC’s frank reply with ‘ Bad relationship, yep, 12 years’ Wow - not just me then!!
At one time my heart was in it, the time and energy was worth it all and consumed me but looking back (hindsight is wonderful) is the bit where the wisdom comes in , right?
Always remember the power and freedom of choice!!!! If it’s not working out don’t so yourself a dis-service and stay stuck! And if course your not alone…none of us are! Yeah the wisdom part…I believe that is when we become able to ;learn from others and not our own misfortunes and self inflicted drama! lol
…I’m still looking!
Greetings MM! Jim here…
Another from the heart post and the most recent example we can give is when we threw in our corporate towels to travel for 9 months back in 2005….Emma let go instantly and loved the freedom that no email messages and phone calls gave her where I was the oppostie, all my busy props had been taken away and I felt totally isolated by this. In reality I had felt more isolated in busy corporate life (the higer you climb up the tree the lonelier it can get - in lots of cases) so it was time to take soem vitamin me and take time out!
Just one example of many and thanks for showing the courage to spark this one off. Jim from Jim n Em.
Someone I know has done the comrades for twenty years, every year promises it is his last, he retired about seven years ago, his comment to me the other day was, retiring isnt for sissies. In the last four months several other friends of mine retired, one lasted three days went back to work. He is unfortunate to be so highly skilled the company welcomed him back on any terms, if they only knew he would gladly do it for nothing. All the guys are having a problem, the ladies love it.
Does that tell us something?
The doctors gave my mom a year on the outside to live, I took very early retirement, to spend that year with her so that I would have no regrets about all the things I wanted to share with her. Ten years on she is still as cantankerous as ever. I stopped work to give her something, she gave something more important to me.The realisation, this is no trial run this is life, do what you wanted to do, do it now. Busy with a novel, busy in other things I always wanted to do .
Hey Stan…a good friend of mine ALWAYS loves to tell me that…
“Life is not a dress rehearsal”
this is the one life we get to live…may as well live it the way we want to right. thanks for your comments!
Thanks Jim and Em…The story that you both live by is one of inspiration and courage for the rest of us just starting out in the world of personal freedom…..Each accomplishment one of us experiences is just another reinforcing factor in how “trapped” many of us are by the beliefs we have. thank goodness for the ability to think outside the box and take healthy meaningful risks for our sanity!
Whining bunch of self pitying drones.
Why not;
1. Get rid of these bad relationships, jobs whatever.
2. Focus on the good things in your life.
3. Construct a plan to fix these bad things instead of just harping on about them and putting together meaningless statments about ‘you change’, ‘you’re in control’, ‘all that matters is you’ clearly ‘you’ aren’t about to change or in control and seriously don’t matter to yourself.
Being frank (are you really Gareth) you remind me of some salesmen that turn up to our company and waste 2 hours of my time with some garbage powerpoint about their company and products but no detail, no knowledge, no ability to plan or think on the spot, just a bunch of hot air with nothing behind it. Looks good but no substance.
If you really want you can get a life coach to tell you to make a list of 10 things you’d like to change, be remembered for, do before you die, etc. and then pay a fortune for him/her to spend the next two months gently telling you to get off your backside and do it in a sypathetic and patronising way, however you could just tell yourself and then devise a plan, get some focus and go and do it.
Is this post harsh, probably. But I think you’ve no doubt had endless sympathy and ‘oh I know how you feel, me too’ from other bloggers - it didn’t work. Sympathy and wet nursing from your friends and family - it didn’t work.
So why not help yourself to a large mugaccino of straight to the point, get of your backside and do it advice.
WOW…are we a little sensitive today??????
lol
Do you need a hug????
Howz about a lil’ sympathy, because I know how you feel
Who pissed you off so bad that you want to now piss all over the post??????
I like your straight to the point style…in “real” life, I am more straight to the point with no B.S in between words.
eg: I WILL NOT co-sign anyones bullsh*t…including my own!
Do you really want me to bore you with the minute details of kicking a 12 year heroin addiction and rebuilding my life from scratch?????
I’m not some silver spoon, Americana chic living in the world of la-dee da….ohh life is wonderful…
Anything and everything I write about comes from my heart of experience and understanding of HOW I am fully and totally responsible for destroying my life…as well as HOW I am now fully and totally responsible for re-creating my life.
But geeeeeeezzzz, could you just let me be a little “fluffy” with my words here?????????
Thanks for the contrast you added to the post…..it always adds a bit more spice to the flavor of life!
I have respect for your triumph over your addiction, its not easy and well done for doing it. However I didn’t get you addicted, neither did anyone else so I’m sorry, no gold star badge.
The point I’m raising is in about 6 months of reading stuff on here nobody has actually done anything and they still go on about the same problems, regrets, moans and gripes.
Believe it or not I’m am blissfully happy. I like moving around the world, I like my job, I have a hectic hobby/sport/self interest schedule and have offered ‘fluffy’ advice in the past only to see the same characters putting the same stuff up time and again.
I thought this was supposed to be an inspirational blog whereby we exchanged tips on flower smelling.
Not simply spew forth endless lists of sh%te that we need to change, brings us down, 10 most depressing moments, etc.
lol…not looking for a gold star badge for my addiction…that would be a very funny thing wouldn’t it????
You said,
Well…I’m not where you are yet…..but I’m a lot further along in my own life from where I was two years ago….so for you to state that no-one is actually changing their lives, is a very one-sided argument from YOUR perspective. Which of course is always welcome, in that it definitely adds to the post itself.
Thanks as always
If your not seeing what you think should be seen….stop whining about it and do something about it….(Sort of like what you wrote in your first comment.)
Hi Morgan
A great from-the-heart post indeed, and I checked out your blog - very interesting. (I notice you provide a french translation also:))
I am more of a “Let Go and Let God” kind of person, upwards and onwards and don’t look back and what’s not meant to be won’t be. But of course, some ‘let go’ sometimes proved harder to recover from afterwards. C’est la vie!
Hey Bridget…Yea letting go…somethings are easier then others, and some I kick and scream about…in the end though it’s all worth it.
Thanks for stopping by my site as well…glad the French translation could help you!
Hasta la Pasta…( that’s my own language) lol
Us flowers have just added a translator too - right hand column here and we’ve just go the OK for an Arabic translation too…!
Yeah, I saw that. And French is first, good call ha!
A great post Morgan.
I have learnt through some heart breaking things that though we can let go and let god, sometimes we just have to make things happen.
There is this phrase - doing the same things again and again and getting a different result is insanity!
Many years ago, as my then marriage hit the rocks I took a sabbatical in South India for 2 months and helped out at Nirvana school (www.nirvanaschool.org).
That proved to be a life changing few weeks as it ultimately led me into coaching, writing and speaking. But most importantly I became a much better human being.
Looking back 7 years ago at that lowest period in my life, I have come a long way, so I am sure I was supported greatly by god, universe, source, consciousness or whatever one chooses to call that greater power all around us.
Thank you Morgan for posting this. Great image too.
Yes Arvind…the process of letting go often is brought about by painful realizations of things and aspects that just don’t work.
Love the insanity statement…It’s actually one I use on a daily basis…helps keep me “green” in my recovery process.
the process of the universe is one that I have discovered through time and experience that of which provides you with EVERYTHING neccessary to become a better person on a daily basis.
The universe at large will repeat the same scenario again and again until it is seen another way and another choice is made….in the end it’s all about freedom.
thanks for your comments!
I believe in mor of let Go! and let the universe take over! I recently quit a job I was miserable in but finally the misery overtook my fear and I left.
It is amazing what has happened since; the opportunities that have opened up for me and the people I have met have all been for a reason. Letting go of the old negativity was the best thing (and the scriest thing) I have ever done.
Thanks for the post
Mel….I’m “not there” yet…but I’m getting closer
There are areas that I’m quick to let the universe handle…but then others that I still try to control…most of the time not even realizing I am attempting control.
For me this whole process started back last May ….when I took a risk on living my life and walked out of my job….scary as hell, painful as hell…but it all has led me to the here and now. For that I am grateful eternally!
Wey hey! Good for you Morgan. Way to go girl.
Enjoy the ride. And the here and now is what matters.
Your so right in that Mel..thanks for the encouragement.
GO! Mighty!
Let Go and Let God is something I have only learned to do in the past year. Consciously that is. Dragging the past around got boring. Addictions, whether it be substance or people or even emotions can be hard to let go of and I find the language I use helps immensely. Rather than using words that take me back there, I create new possibilities with the words I speak and keep a gratitude journal. It has given me some outstanding results in my life.
Thanks Morgan
it’s nice to meet you.
Hey Buzzing…thanks for the comments and I couldn’t agree more! when you really, really start to listen to the language within that prompts your daily actions it’s amazing to see how much “negative” buzz exists inside the mind. I have and continue to keep the “noise inside my mind as positive and as empowering as possible…at times it’s tough being that the old dope fiend messages still want to play..but through time I have found great relief from the old as I continue to introduce the new!
I too had many plans that didn’t work out and many unanswered questions in what i thought was correct. Got into bad lifestyles; hated people around me and a lot more.
I believe and love God but never took it whole heartedly; after dire situations stuck i did come to a conclusion, seek God’s guidance more than my understanding; Let Go! and Let God
Hey Joel, thanks for the comments. i too have shared in the disappointments of plans that didn’t work out, unanswered questions, etc.
As I seek out answers I still find that my old notions on God or whatever anyone chooses to call “It” has had to go through a transformation that is so far removed from the concept of a God I had as a child…thank goodness for that.
Joel
If you get power from that more power to you
but I just can’t believe in god.
however as you appear to ‘know him’ could you get him to perform a tangible miracle in trafalgar square today- I think he misses out on opps to expand his power base by never publically performing miracles don’ you?
Gary I instant messaged God…and he said he will put that on his list of ten things to do before he dies…
But first he will have to consult with his life coach in order to determine if that is the right move for him or not.
SMILE
Hope you dont mind, linked my latest post
Mighty
Sometimes the whole world looks so cruel when we are in a bad situation.
I read a magazine about a lady who was very sorrowful and she shared that she realized she could not changed everything else but herself and she triumped.
Hope you like this sharing.